Posted: December 18, 2018
"Less strife, more life" - Renee Lange Weatherbee
Every now and then I get hit with a few words of wisdom. This phrase, short and to the point, came to me recently. As I begin the “twilight” of my life I desire not to have any strife in my life. Strife defined by Merriam-Webster’s dictionary is: 1 a. bitter or sometimes violent conflict or dissension; b. an act of contention; fight, struggle; 2 exertion or contention for superiority… Synonyms are: conflict, disaccord, discord discordance, discordancy, disharmony, dissension, dissent, dissidence, dissonance, disunion, disunity, division, friction, infighting, inharmony, schism, variance, war, warfare.
Of course, no life is without strife, however, with patience, there is hope to be able to minimize the effects of strife, to diffuse any oncoming strife and sometimes, to simply walk away when it hits you full force in the face. I don’t want to war with anyone…I’m simply getting too old for it.
How can you minimize the effects of strife?
1. Try not to take whatever hurtful words have been said to you personally. People have their bad days and they also have their opinions. Their opinions of you should not matter, as long as you are working toward being the best person you can be. Their judging is only a reflection of them, not you.
2. Walk away. Don’t argue. You won’t be able to change their minds.
3. Pray for the person who hurt you. Love them anyway.
4. Forgive. Forgive often and quickly.
5. Let it slide…let it roll. Don’t let it fester. Don’t waste time and energy on it. If it makes you cry, fine. Shed your tears and then lift up your head and move forward.
6. If a person hurts you repeatedly, you may have to cut them off. Personally, I care about everyone in my life deeply, so this option is hard for me. Sometimes, you just have to say goodbye, unfortunately. You can do this with a positive mind-set, praying for a good life for them full of blessings.